Hello!
We want to talk about vampires briefly. Yes, they don’t really have much to do with fitness, but in the movies, they are all hot and have washboard abs despite sleeping 14 hours a day. (So fasting does really work?!
But we were recently introduced to the Vampire Problem. A hypothetical that some people use to decide on having kids or make some other rational decision where it’s tough to go back on.
Imagine someone offers, not forces, to turn you into a vampire.
Every vampire says it’s amazing once transformed.
But before transformation, you can’t truly know what being a vampire feels like.
And once transformed, your values, desires, and identity may completely change. (And drinking blood may distress you!)
For the sake of brevity, we won’t go into much more about it; you can read about it here.
But what’s fascinating is that the person who makes the choice (to be bitten or have kids) isn't the same person who has to deal with the consequences (good and bad).
And that is also why it is so hard to stick to a fitness routine because your new identity lags way behind your new routine.
You have to become a different person, and that takes time.
Also, your body and brain naturally want to remain in homeostasis.
After two weeks of strength classes it screams, “Dude, get me back on the couch. Why you be treating my muscles like this, bruh?”
Unlike the vampire problem, however, you can go back to your old ways. But we don’t want you to do that!
So here are 3 things you can do to stay on track while your new identity catches up.
1) Start putting yourself in rooms with people who already do the thing you want to do
Text that friend who's annoyingly consistent about having the energy to work out in the evening after the workday is finished.
Say yes to the neighbour who keeps inviting you to her running group.
Join a gym where the people in class know your name and actually seem happy to see you because that energy is contagious in the best way (hint hint).
A workout shared is a problem halved, and other people's identities can help carry you while yours is still catching up.
2) Start calling yourself someone who works out but be specific
Before your new routine feels natural, your brain is still running the old story: "I'm not really a gym person." Every skipped workout confirms it.
So flip the script before you feel ready to.
Start saying out loud, to actual humans, "I work out on Mondays, Wednesdays, and Fridays." Not "I'm trying to get fit" or "I've been going to the gym lately." Those hedge. They leave the exit door open.
When your neighbour asks what you've been up to, say "I've been strength training." When your kid asks why you're tired, say "Because I had a hard workout."
Identity follows language. The vampire doesn't spend their first week saying, "I'm kind of doing the blood thing right now; we'll see how it goes." They commit to the bit.
You're not waiting to become a gym person. You already are one. You just need to say it and act like it until your brain catches up.
3) Don’t overthink it
We tend to overanalyze new habits, especially at the beginning when working out hasn’t become just something you do on a Tuesday.
Sure, check in with yourself at specific intervals, but for the most part, just commit to the routine, do the workouts, and then chill out.
Go eat a ham sandwich. Cuddle your kids. Bite a neck. And then we’ll see you on Monday for more push-ups.
You’re doing great.
Kevin & Victoria
P.S. We don’t have the teeth to turn you into a vampire, but we can help turn you into a person who works out on Mondays, Wednesdays, and Fridays.
Group fitness trials start at just $49, and we also have a group + one-on-one training option too.
